Why are we still having children? Why are we (heterosexual women) still participating in penetrative intercourse (PIV) with males?
I wrote a post recently about pregnancy and having children. I questioned why it is that we provide male systems with the one thing that they must have and are unable to do themselves, which is create PEOPLE as workers and consumers. I mean, we do it for free, at great risk to ourselves, and with males crying about it the entire time. Why are we populating the world for them?
Pregnancy should be compensated, period. We provide ALL of the actual humans for males to use, abuse, profit from, etc. Why are we doing all of that for free?
We shouldn’t be doing that for free. Our lives, bodies and time are valuable. Males put a price on everything. We either need to stop producing for them, or charge them for it.
Which leads me into what I really want to discuss, which is sex. Males have defined sex as penetration, penis in vagina (PIV). Males say that sex starts when their dick enters a vagina and ends when they ejaculate.
That is the sum total of male defined sex. This is how sex is portrayed in movies and other media. And we are totally ignored. We are just a hole for a dick, a receptacle for sperm.
Males defined sex this way and turned it into a cultural norm for several reasons. Males really don’t want women to enjoy sex. If we like it, then we will seek it out and want to choose our own partners. Males also don’t like it when we demand things, and they certainly don’t want to have to think about what makes us feel good. Males only really care about what *they* want, they are too lazy/inept/selfish to care if we orgasm or if we are having a good time.
And their good time is only about their dick, which is why males hate lesbians. Their tiny male brains get all kinds of mad when they think that women don’t want or need them, especially for sex. Most males like the idea of lesbianism as a performance for them, and that is the only acceptable lesbianism to them. They don’t understand lesbian sex, because there is no penis! How confusing for them! If there is no PIV, then the male mind thinks that sex can’t be happening, lol. So lesbians can’t possibly be having *real* sex.
Males define sex as PIV and too many of us have bought into that. As long as our bodies remain under the control of male governments, we should not be allowing males access to PIV. It is that simple.
For me, not allowing male access to PIV is about avoiding pregnancy, protesting prostitution/trafficking, and protesting male government control over my body.
I am married for over a decade, and I have been with my husband since 2003. I do not engage in PIV. But I do engage in sex. (I wouldn’t have gotten married had I known about radical feminism at the time. I like my husband and my marriage, and I would still be having a relationship with him, but I wouldn’t have married on principle.)
I have spoken about this before, and was deafened by the sounds of male heads exploding at the idea. They can’t imagine what sex is between a male and a woman if there is no PIV. Why would a male ever agree to that heinous, unfair situation?!?! What is wrong with me? That I can’t understand that I owe my husband full access to my vagina?!?!?
And that is followed by insults thrown at the lack of “masculinity” that my husband is displaying by not demanding his god given right to stick his dick in my vagina on demand.
Try discussing this with a male. And you will quickly find out how little (or how much) they think of you. In my experience, they get overly emotional and hysterical, and their fear makes them especially loud and incredibly stupid in their terror at the thought of not having access to female bodies.
I am a woman that likes PIV. Unfortunately, male government controls my reproduction, so I can’t risk it, even with birth control. I live in the southern USA, where abortion is really expensive and difficult to obtain. If I could afford it, I can’t afford the travel it would take for me to have one. I don’t want kids, I never have, and I can’t afford them, anyway.
If males actually face a consequence for their collective control of our bodies, that will very quickly put a stop to their dominance. We can cut males off at the source if we would stop allowing them PIV access, and if we stopped providing them with humans for them to take from.
Imagine if women just stopped consenting to PIV. This one defiant act can start a revolution.
*I am very willing to answer questions about how I have a sexual relationship with a man without PIV, and how I went about it. I am not shy about it, but I didn’t include it because it really isn’t all that interesting. If you have a question, ask!