One of my very first memories is of a mall, it was FrederickTowne mall, in the state of maryland, not too far out of washington d.c., I was maybe 4 or 5 years old, I hadn’t started school, yet.
Mall culture was relatively new, it was the late 70s, and my parents would take my brother and me to the mall on Friday nights, and everyone else was there. I also remember a winter coat that I was wearing, it was likely around Christmas, because the mall was packed. It was so packed that everyone was moving, as a group, and if you wanted to look into a storefront or go into a store, you had to kind of step out of the crowd at the correct time, and if coming out of a store, you had to wait for a break in the foot traffic before finding a gap to jump into.
The pet store caught my eye, as we were walking past, it was next door to hickory farms, which was a store that my parents always went into, so I stepped out from the crowd, wanting to look in the window to see the puppies or ferrets that were always there. In my child’s mind, I think that I only looked for a minute, it couldn’t have been all that long, but when I looked back up, they were gone.
I can still see this part of the memory, it is so clear, of my viewpoint, where I was pushed by the crowd, up against the pet store window, and I realized that I had lost my parents. As I looked around frantically, and I didn’t see them, I immediately began to cry. And it didn’t take very long before I was full on, panic crying, trying to contain what I guess was my first glimpse of terror. There was no way I was going to find them, not in this packed crowd, and I panicked.
So here is 5 year old me, crying, alone, in a packed mall, and there are 3 people in my view, seemingly out of nowhere. Two elderly women, one elderly man. One of the women had a cane, all 3 had grey hair, and immediately, the women bent over and asked me what was wrong? Why was I crying?
So I am trying to tell them that I am lost, that I just wanted to look in the window, and it was just a minute, but honestly, I don’t know what words came out of my 5 year old mouth because my only clear memory of any words were those two women saying that they would help me, that they were sure that we would find my parents, and they each took one of my hands, instructing me to look around, and asking me what my parents looked like.
I think that we might have moved maybe 2 feet, and I saw my parents coming. They had turned around to look for me as soon as they noticed I was gone.
My parents thanked them for helping me, and I turned around to try to thank them, too, but now, I was sobbing with relief and I don’t think that I said any actual words, lol. But I clearly remember being grateful, and as I looked, I saw those two women, and the man that was with them, he had stepped off to the side and had stayed a little bit away while they were interacting with me. While I had immediately seen him, he disappeared from my view and I didn’t notice him again, and I likely wouldn’t have remembered him at all, but for him appearing next to the women after my parents reappeared.
Looking back now, I would guess that maybe dealing with children lay within the purview of women.
Or maybe he was socially signaling that he was not interested in a random little girl.
Regardless, we have told our little children that, if you are lost, find a woman. I am 49 years old today. Without asking, I know that this was common among Gen X, when we were little and lost, find a woman.
No one told us why it was a woman we should look to.
No one had to tell us.
And every little girl eventually discovers on her own why grown males are unsafe.
And some of us, I am sure, already knew why males were unsafe.
What will we tell our daughters now?
If you haven’t seen, ireland has decided that girls in primary and secondary schools no longer deserve the safety and privacy of sex specific toilets. Not to single out the UK, because goddess knows that rape is everywhere, but they have seen an explosion of boys raping, sexually harassing, and bullying girls.* And the response from the male rulers is to make escape from boys impossible.
Males are gaslighting us when they claim that they mean no harm by removing our private spaces.
Males see the evidence, and the PROOF. And yet, they continue to throw women to their brothers by providing the legal force necessary for males to invade rape crisis centers, women’s pools, women’s toilets, and women’s prisons.
The worst of the gaslighting is what we do to ourselves when we insist that “the public will peak” and “as soon as the general public catches on, this will change, males will stop”.
Of course, most people know that, when you put male criminals into a female prison, that males will rape and abuse those female inmates. And it’s likely that a lot of people think that is wrong.
Males insure supremacy by doing immoral, violent, degenerate things. It’s who they are. Males lie, manipulate, obscure. Truth and reality is their enemy, which is why they refuse to tolerate those things.
Males don’t care about what is fair or right, those concepts run counter to what they want. So why do we constantly think that, at some point, males will see that we are right?
THEY ALREADY KNOW.
Males know that males in female prisons will rape. Males have witnessed it, just like the rest of us.
Males know that boys are raping little girls, and that it’s happening younger and younger, and they know that it’s directly related to porn.
Males know that they can never morph into a female body.
Males know that they are cheating when they resort to stealing spots on women and girls teams.
Males know exactly what they are doing, and they are doing it with forethought and malice.
Why do we gaslight ourselves? In service of males?
Why do we think that our spaces will be protected “in the courts”? When those same courts uphold the paid rape of pornography and prostitution? When those same courts refuse to prosecute rape? When those same courts exert the male ownership rights of control over each and every female body?
I can’t speak to other countries, but in the states, women asked for basic constitutional protection, the same rights that males enjoy, and males loudly and clearly said NO. Why do women speak of constitutional rights, when those were very clearly denied to us? Are we gaslighting ourselves? Or do we just not know?
I don’t know very much about Iran, but I have seen women say that recently, within the last few decades, women had made great strides in their personal freedom, which manifested quite often in their clothing, that they could wear jeans and t shirts, at one very recent time. And I saw this video over the weekend, from a woman who was driving a car while not wearing a hijab, please just take a minute and look.
Random males on the street, including some clerics, stopped her, to punish her.
And we all know how males punish disobedient women and girls. Don’t we?
And I wonder what women thought, back in those times, just a few years ago, really, when they were wearing blue jeans and t shirts and their hair was uncovered.
Did they think that they held some autonomy?
Did they think that they were making progress?
Did they think that males were losing their violent hold over them?
What did they tell their daughters? When males decided that it should be only and always males that decide how women dress? Again?
I am not judging iranian women, I am not judging any women.
I just think that it’s past time for the gaslighting to stop.
It’s time to stop assigning good intentions to males, when there so clearly are none present.
It’s time to stop telling ourselves, and each other, and especially our daughters, that male violence, male dominance, and male rule is just a matter of misunderstandings, or properly explaining, or nurture versus nature.
Males are eradicating women’s private spaces is sexual terrorism. Male lives improve with every instance of sexual terrorism that patriarchy enacts at women and girls.
Males have access to ALL of the toilets. All of the changing rooms.
Males now have additional opportunities in the form of women’s shortlists and scholarships. Males now, once again, have access to all of the opportunities.
All of us who have ever ducked into a women’s restroom, to get away from a male that is following or harassing us, are the last women who will ever enjoy that right. Sexual terrorism enacted onto us by males means that males, once again, own all of the space.
Girls don’t know what it means to have a private space, away from boys. Boys are welcomed into the girls restroom at school because males own them and have decided to allow them in.
I think it was around 4th grade, I was 8 or 9 years old, when boys decided that it would be funny to tell random girls that “your pussy stinks”. I can’t imagine dealing with boys in toilets when struggling with periods, that are a brand new phenomenon, or goddess forbid, having to shit, or worse, having to use the facilities while a nasty male is shitting.
Male sexual terrorism requires the complete denial of the physical reality of biology. Males know who is male and who is female, but they get everything by pretending that they don’t.
Back to my original story, when I was lost in the mall, and my mother instructed me to look for a woman. What will you tell your daughter now?
In public schools, boys and girls are being taught that being female is a feeling. What will you tell her?
Will you tell her that she should be wary of all people?
Even though only the penis draggers are a threat?
What words will you use?
Males have created this myth that we can’t possibly know who has what genitalia. Even though the straight males have never accidentally raped a dick dragger.
Males have shown repeatedly that they will put their dick into literally anything. Women don’t attempt to fuck animals or babies or dead people, like males so routinely do.
Of course, males can put their nasty dick anywhere, because their biology is beyond useless. But for those of us who can become pregnant, what will you tell your daughters?
Because you will know, just like males know, who the breeding chattel are.
What will you tell them? About the dick draggers?
What will you tell them when all of the college scholarships marked for girls end up awarded to loser dick draggers?
And if they manage to go to college, what will you tell them about their lack of privacy?
At some point, there will just be “dorms” and “showers” because biological sex no longer exists. What does not exist cannot be named.
If you tell them that you enjoyed some personal freedom, some bodily autonomy, some spaces where you knew that you could have privacy from invasive, creeping males, what will you tell them about losing those spaces?
Will you tell them that male government was trying to protect weak, failure males?
Or will you tell them the truth.
Will you tell them that males are, as a class, sexual terrorists?
Will you tell them that males subjugate women and girls with violence, much of it sexual violence, because of their fear that women are superior?
Will you tell them that males will allow us little bits of freedom, until that freedom makes them feel inferior?
Will you tell them that males cannot function without dominating everything in their line of sight?
And that part of the male existence is to use sexual terrorism directed at women and girls, partially by revoking our rights to privacy? Which is intentionally restricting our movements? In an effort to keep us enslaved to and dependent on males? (Also known as the “protection racket”)
Will you tell them that males have done this across all time and space? That women and girls exist solely for male use? And that women can’t change males? A mother can’t raise a non violent, non oppressive male.
It’s a disservice to all women when we act as if we can somehow teach males to be kind, or fair, or somehow raise sons that will save us. Unless you think that women could have changed this, before, but just failed or chose not to.
Males will never be decent, kind, or non violent. Males rule the world on the enslavement of women and girls because that is exactly HOW THEY WANT IT TO BE.
Males encourage and facilitate rape, porn, prostitution, because they LIKE IT.
Males have revoked and are revoking our rights to privacy because they can and because they want to.
There is no nuance. There is no effort to protect weak, inadequate males by forcing women to shield them.
All of this, males invading ever single space of ours, taking any meager gains that males have permitted us, is because males hate women. Males hate girls. They shape our existence through various types of force for their own personal use.
Male dominance, sexual terrorism, and ownership of women is the issue. It has always been the issue. It’s the problem that needs to be addressed, in total.
So please know that if you tell your daughters that they should beg male systems to please treat them fairly, as women have been begging for thousands of years, know that you are gaslighting them.
The truth is that asking the master to free the slave has never worked, not one time, not in all of history.
So are you going to tell her the truth?
Or are you going to tell her NotAllMen? Or to create petitions? Or to beg the master to give her her freedom? Like generations of us have spent our lives doing?
What will you tell your daughters?
*I have linked to these stories repeatedly in other posts.