It’s never humorous for long, with XY, is it.
I worked at the office, yesterday, the day started badly, yesterday was the one year anniversary of my Jackie dog dying, and it was a cold, dreary rain, all day.
Although, I had my lil’ office assistant with me…
I mentioned in my previous post that my female boss is divorcing her husband, and it’s a process. In the states, each individual state governs the divorces within it. In my state, divorce is granted immediately if you meet at least one of 3 specific criteria, WITH WITNESSES, those criteria being provable abuse, adultery, or drug/alcohol abuse.
Providing that you can pay for it.
Without meeting one of those 3 criteria (WITH WITNESSES), you must live apart for one full year, and then you may ask the court for a divorce.
YOU MAY ASK.
In order to protect yourself within that year, there are legal routes you may take, like restraining orders, if needed, you can ask for spousal support, you can try to make various agreements with your spouse, etc.
So my boss hired an attorney ($3500) to secure a “legal separation”. Her husband had a girlfriend, so he gladly agreed to the separation, and he signed it, with the idea that this agreement will take them through their year, and that the agreement will continue for a specified amount of time after they legally divorce, in March of next year.
The adultery rule still stands, for the year, so neither one of them is allowed to date anyone else during that year, or else they will be guilty of adultery, and an immediate divorce can be granted.
Why does the adultery rule matter? If they are divorcing, anyway?
Well, nothing happens to him, if he commits adultery.
But she will lose the tiny bit of alimony that he has to legally pay her if she is found to be committing adultery.
BUT IT’S ALL SO EQUAL, YOU GUISE.
But dick is really important, and she has been dating males, she is just being sneaky about it.
At some point, she started telling him that she is with me, when she goes out on dates. (In my being flippant, it seems like once a while back, she asked me if she could use me as an alibi, and I said that I wouldn’t care if she did. Apparently, she has been using me as an alibi ever since, I just didn’t realize it, she mentioned it once, in passing, weeks ago, it’s never been brought up, again.)
Fast forwarding, she has gone on a camping trip the past 2 weekends, with her “boyfriend”, and telling her husband that she has been with me. She didn’t tell me that, and if she had, I probably wouldn’t have cared, honestly.
But let’s all learn from me, and let’s not make this mistake, again, because now, her males have become my legal issue.
Her husband lost his girlfriend, recently, so he has been aggressively demanding to reconcile with her. She keeps telling him no, that she wants to continue with the divorce, and I am unable to comprehend why she still speaks to him, when legally, she is under no obligation to interact with him.
She did finally block him, within the last few days, I guess, so yesterday, he came into the office, he walked past my desk, into the back, to her desk, said something to her, and then he left. He wasn’t there more than 60 seconds.
That was the second time that I have seen him. The one other time, he brought her her alimony check. I didn’t speak to him then, either, I only speak to XY that my job requires me to interact with.
But he is huge, and she has confessed that she is afraid of him. So I was aware of his presence, and he seemed to be off, somehow, but I didn’t think too much of it because they all seem to be a single heartbeat away from a violent outburst.
When I wrote the post yesterday, about how XYs determine if we are Lesbian, that came about because she had told our male boss (the business owner) that her husband is accusing her of “turning” Lesbian, which set off a 30 minute lecture from my male boss about what makes a Lesbian.
But I didn’t know that her husband actually thinks that she and I have been going away on weekends, together. And that he actually thinks that I am her girlfriend.
And I was unaware that he has been calling her attorney and claiming that since she and I are obviously in a “romantic relationship” with each other, that this is adultery, and that he is going to have me subpoenaed into to court.
Where I would have to prove that I am not in a sexual/romantic relationship with her.
How do you prove that you aren’t doing something? I mean, the legal burden of proof should be on him to prove that I am actually doing whatever he is accusing me of, but that’s never how it works, is it?
Not to mention that he is unhinged and batshit crazy, and he now sees me as his “competition”, as the person who is keeping his wife from obeying his commands.
I am so fucking upset. When I had a male, I never inflicted him onto any other woman, not one time. I barely ever even mentioned him, here, in years of writing, I only ever mentioned him when he was/is relevant.
And I really like this job. I am really good at it, and I am finding talents that I didn’t even know that I had. I didn’t know that I just magically knew how to break into a locked car until my first day on this job. I can MATH, like, REALLY MATH. And my male boss is so heinously sexist, but as much as I hate his ignorant dumbass, I have refused to let him ruin this job for me because I really like it. Even when he explains that having a vagina is vital to being proficient at multitasking. Even when he says that the smartest woman is not nearly as smart as the dumbest male. And a million other misogynist things.
And most importantly, I can help other women, sometimes, in a financial sense.
I already avoid males. Am I going to have to start avoiding women who are involved with males?
I am just so fucking tired.
Let me just say that this idea of defining relationships by fucking is just so fucking stupid. And so fucking MALE. I am not interested in sexual activities with ANYONE, END OF.
I have very close relationships with several women whom I adore, and that I absolutely love. While I understand that males are only able to define relationships by their dick, their insistence on projecting their nasty perversions onto women is exhausting.
But their narrative serves as a wedge between us, doesn’t it? We can enjoy each other’s company, up until a very specific, male defined point, at which time we will be accused of fucking each other. And the male word is the defining standard, the gospel, they are always correct, until we prove otherwise, TO THEM, to their law, their church, their male authority.
I am so fucking tired.
Jayne
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Yes, even calling a woman a lesbian for refusing them they STILL make it about sex. That’s the metric on the evolutionary scale to which they have evolved. Low bar.
Your friend can simply make up an imaginary female friend/s since she makes up the story she’s hanging out with you. Maybe you can make a suggestion to that effect? Maybe suggest that friendship is more than being a ready-made alibi, since after all, she’s not hanging out with you and doing woman companion shit on the weekends.
I don’ t understand HER reasoning for dating anyone. Why the fuck do people need an other in order to have a frame of reference for themselves? I just don’t fucking get it. Unless, of course, it is about money and property relations—as marriage is a property relations contract itself. Maybe she wants more “income” to live her lifestyle? I don’t see another reason. I mean, if she wants sex, there are adult shops where she could buy a vibrator and simply take herself out camping or to dinner.
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I hate, HATE the use of lesbian as insult, it’s just so fucking juvenile and stupid.
After my first marriage, I took a break from dating, for a couple of years. I didn’t feel like I needed a male, or should be with one, or whatever. Then I married the second time, and some days, I am still shocked that he walked.
I have never had any male, not a single one, ever show me any real loyalty, commitment, appreciation, honesty, decency, integrity, they are unable to even hold up the flimsiest pretense for very long. And the only reason that I ever remained open to relationships with males is because I believed the lie that “there’s plenty of good ones out there, so keep looking”. Now I know that the vast majority of them are shitbags, and if there is a good one, perhaps i may end up seeing him one day, but at this point, I would never believe him, lol. He could be a prince, and so what? I would never believe it, and if I did, that ship has sailed.
And my boss has so many things to keep her busy, she has grown kids and hoards of grandkids, a full-time job, a house, 3 dogs, and who knows what else. I don’t get the desperation to be in a pair, either.
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Het women who haven’t sworn off males are very dangerous, and the vast majority of them hate actual Lesbians and don’t mind putting us in danger if they can. It seems what you are experiencing is Lesbianism-by-proxy? So welcome, I suppose. 🙃
She is using her position as your boss to do this to you. “Do it to her, not to me” is the Siren Song of the unrecovered Het woman. It’s not cool, and I hope that you are not walking to your car alone, etc. This male, having lost his parasitical host, could easily come after you. Please be careful, and I know you know this, but try to untangle yourself from her…
Would it be possible for you to find a Beard who would agree to pretend boyfriend you until this is resolved? Any Gay dudes around?
If not, even pictures of some random dude and maybe a new ring on your finger to put this guy off if he appears in your office again?
Just brainstorming, here.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
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Hi, Jo!!!! I’m always happy to see you, and I hope that you, C, and all your animal babies are doing well.
I appreciate your concern and the suggestion of getting myself a male for protection, and I understand why you suggest it, but I would never hide behind a male, mostly on principle, but also, I don’t want to end up indebted to any XY, you know they are incapable of acting out of only concern, honor, or generosity, there are always strings attached. Even if they would insist otherwise.
I do take Duckie to work with me, not all of the time, but often, and every time that I know that I am going to be alone, and she is a pretty good deterrent, mostly because she is a loud talker (like me 😋) and because most people consider her to be a pit bull (even though she is not). She also has a bit of a distrustful, protective streak in her, and while I would never train any dog to be a guard dog, I have had a few with natural guarding tendencies, and I don’t discourage it. She is not huge, at just over 40 pounds, but she is not a dainty, tiny girl, either, again, much like me, lol. And we ain’t scared. We are annoyed, lol.
Her attorney did have a conversation with him about his behavior, warning him to stop, or that he would be receiving a restraining order. In theory, his employment would be negatively affected by a restraining order, so that should (hopefully) be enough to put a stop to his bullshit, at least whatever he is directing at me. So we will see.
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Oh Jayne. I am so sorry. On so many levels.
1. Your friend should have been much clearer on the fact that she was actively using you for an alibi. For a lot of reasons, honesty between friends being the biggest reason and the morass of bullshit you’re both now wading through being a close second. Because I know you said it off the cuff and you meant it but you never imagined these implications.
I’m honestly ready to strangle your coworker/boss/friend and I’m the kind of woman who often makes excuses for other women. How the fuck old is this woman? Has she no experience of the world and men? Because most women figure out that men are horrible by the time they reach a certain age. They might still want them or think they need them but they know they’re horrible. So seriously, how the fuck old is this woman because I’m picturing/assuming say 45 to 55 and that is too old to be this fucking stupid. Apologies for swearing but your story has really pissed me off. Because you could lose things here.
Why on earth didn’t she live out the year separation and then to the final decree without dating? We know that adultery rules hit women harder. She was in a perfect position to get him on the adultery (new girlfriend and all) and be sitting pretty for a clean divorce. She could have dated after the divorce if that was her wish. After all it isn’t like there aren’t plenty of men running around and I seriously doubt that she would have missed Prince Charming on his unicorn if she’d waited.
This woman has really treated you badly Jayne. Not for asking for an alibi, friends do do this for friends but when mature generally for better reasons. But because she didn’t make it clear to you that she was using this alibi and so often. And that it had serious implications for everyone involved. Now what is she going to do? Dumb bitch has boxed herself into a corner. And you with her. And for what?
I’m upset because you need this job. More importantly I’m overjoyed that you’re finding talents you never knew. I’m so happy for you! And I want you to be able to follow this wherever it takes you but because of this woman you could find yourself in real trouble. Without the job you actually need even.
Yeah, it’s the system of the patriarchy when you analyze all the way down but this woman set the machinery in motion in this particular instance. I’m not saying you should let it fly, but you and she need to have a serious conversation about how the two of you are going to get out of this mess. And the priority person to save is you!!
Signed, pissed off, cold and a little sick in the Rockies.
PS I hate your male boss too. Even by the standards of misogyny he seems especially bad. But I guess they all believe that the smartest woman is dumber than the dumbest man. Some of them are just smart enough to not say it out loud. I think this is part of the reason for the latest backlash we’re experiencing.
After the Second Wave, men thought their superiority would be proven when more women tried the trades and professions and came a cropper. The truth is that women outperform men everywhere except physically. Women have more than 50% of seats in both medical and law schools. This percentage would be even higher except admissions boards are handicapping to let more men in. Women get into college more and graduate at higher numbers once we’re there. All of this within systems we didn’t create and that were created of men, by men and for men.
PPS – Let us know how things turn out with this Jayne because you could potentially have a serious problem here. You never want to get mentioned in someone else’s divorce case. This doesn’t happen the way it used to, but it could still be possible. And keep a close eye on your “friend”, because from what you’ve told me she would absolutely throw you under the bus to save herself, or her alimony or to get back together with this husband once she’s done getting laid. Be very careful Jayne. Be polite and nice on the surface. Deny all accusations of adultery as vociferously as is politic and watch everyone very, very carefully. Take care of yourself. Try and defend your job. And yes, I know this woman is your immediate supervisor and you can’t alienate her and you can’t. Think of yourself as in survival mode in a viper pit and that might see you through. First thing is to see if you and she can throw off the accusations of adultery and lesbianism first. And did nobody see you during these weekends you were supposedly out camping? Even your internet usage would prove differently. Not that I think any of these people have the money to take things that far but still. Hopefully this will end as a tempest in a teapot. But even in that you could very well be the collateral damage. Think carefully about any lies you are forced to tell too.
And OMG fuck this woman for being so dumb. This whole thing has set off every alarm bell for me. Be careful Jayne.
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Oh Jayne. I am so sorry. On so many levels.
1. Your friend should have been much clearer on the fact that she was actively and often using you for an alibi. For a lot of reasons, honesty between friends being the biggest reason and the morass of bullshit you’re both now wading through being a close second. Because I know you said it off the cuff and you meant it but you never imagined these implications.
I’m honestly ready to strangle your coworker/boss/friend and I’m the kind of woman who often makes excuses for other women. How the fuck old is this woman? Has she no experience of the world and men? Because most women figure out that men are horrible by the time they reach a certain age. They might still want them or think they need them but they know they’re horrible. So seriously, how the fuck old is this woman because I’m picturing/assuming say 45 to 55 and that is too old to be this fucking stupid. Apologies for swearing but your story has really pissed me off. Because you could lose things here.
Why on earth didn’t she live out the year separation and then to the final decree without dating? We know that adultery rules hit women harder. She was in a perfect position to get him on the adultery (new girlfriend and all) and be sitting pretty for a clean divorce. She could have dated after the divorce if that was her wish. After all it isn’t like there aren’t plenty of men running around and I seriously doubt that she would have missed Prince Charming on his unicorn if she’d waited.
This woman has really treated you badly Jayne. Not for asking for an alibi, friends do do this for friends but when mature generally for better reasons. But because she didn’t make it clear to you that she was using this alibi and so often. And that it had serious implications for everyone involved. Now what is she going to do? Dumb bitch has boxed herself into a corner. And you with her. And for what?
I’m upset because you need this job. More importantly I’m overjoyed that you’re finding talents you never knew. I’m so happy for you! And I want you to be able to follow this wherever it takes you but because of this woman you could find yourself in real trouble. Without the job you actually need even.
Yeah, it’s the system of the patriarchy when you analyze all the way down but this woman set the machinery in motion in this particular instance. I’m not saying you should let it fly, but you and she need to have a serious conversation about how the two of you are going to get out of this mess. And the priority person to save is you!!
Signed, pissed off cold and a little sick in the Rockies.
PS I hate your male boss too. Even by the standards of misogyny he seems especially bad. But I guess they all believe that the smartest woman is dumber than the dumbest man. Some of them are just smart enough to not say it out loud. I think this is part of the reason for the latest backlash we’re experiencing. After the Second Wave, men thought their superiority would be proven when more women tried the trades and professions and came a cropper. The truth is that women outperform men everywhere except physically. Women have more than 50% of seats in both medical and law schools. This percentage would be even higher except admissions boards are handicapping to let more men in. Women get into college more and graduate at higher numbers once we’re there. All of this within systems we didn’t even create and that were created if men, by men and for men.
PPS – Let us know how things turn out with this Jayne because you could potentially have a serious problem here. You never want to get mentioned in someone else’s divorce case. This doesn’t happen the way it used to, but it could still be possible. And keep a close eye on your “friend”, because from what you’ve told me she would absolutely throw you under the bus to save herself, or her alimony or to get back together with this husband once she’s done getting laid. Be very careful Jayne. Be polite and nice on the surface. Deny all accusations of adultery as vociferously as is politic and watch very, very carefully. Take care of yourself. Try and defend your job. And yes, I know this woman is your immediate supervisor and you can’t alienate her and you can’t. Think of yourself as in survival mode in a viper pit and that might see you through. First thing is to see if you and she can throw off the accusations of adultery and lesbianism first. And did nobody see you during these weekends you were supposedly out camping? Even your internet usage would prove differently. Not that I think any of these people have the money to take things that far but still. Hopefully this will end as a tempest in a teapot. But even in that you could very well be the collateral damage. Think carefully about any lies you are forced to tell too.
And OMG fuck this woman for being so dumb. This whole thing has set off every alarm bell for me. Be careful Jayne.
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Oh Jayne. I am so sorry. On so many levels.
1. Your friend should have been much clearer on the fact that she was actively and often using you for an alibi. For a lot of reasons, honesty between friends being the biggest reason and the morass of bullshit you’re both now wading through being a close second. Because I know you said it off the cuff and you meant it but you never imagined these implications.
I’m honestly ready to strangle your coworker/boss/friend and I’m the kind of woman who often makes excuses for other women. How the fuck old is this woman? Has she no experience of the world and men? Because most women figure out that men are horrible by the time they reach a certain age. They might still want them or think they need them but they know they’re horrible. So seriously, how the fuck old is this woman because I’m picturing/assuming say 45 to 55 and that is too old to be this fucking stupid. Apologies for swearing but your story has really pissed me off. Because you could lose things here.
Why on earth didn’t she live out the year separation and then to the final decree without dating? We know that adultery rules hit women harder. She was in a perfect position to get him on the adultery (new girlfriend and all) and be sitting pretty for a clean divorce. She could have dated after the divorce if that was her wish. After all it isn’t like there aren’t plenty of men running around and I seriously doubt that she would have missed Prince Charming on his unicorn if she’d waited.
This woman has really treated you badly Jayne. Not for asking for an alibi, friends do do this for friends but when mature generally for better reasons. But because she didn’t make it clear to you that she was using this alibi and so often. And that it had serious implications for everyone involved. Now what is she going to do? Dumb bitch has boxed herself into a corner. And you with her. And for what?
I’m upset because you need this job. More importantly I’m overjoyed that you’re finding talents you never knew. I’m so happy for you! And I want you to be able to follow this wherever it takes you but because of this woman you could find yourself in real trouble. Without the job you actually need even.
Yeah, it’s the system of the patriarchy when you analyze all the way down but this woman set the machinery in motion in this particular instance. I’m not saying you should let it fly, but you and she need to have a serious conversation about how the two of you are going to get out of this mess. And the priority person to save is you!!
Signed, pissed off cold and a little sick in the Rockies.
PS I hate your male boss too. Even by the standards of misogyny he seems especially bad. But I guess they all believe that the smartest woman is dumber than the dumbest man. Some of them are just smart enough to not say it out loud. I think this is part of the reason for the latest backlash we’re experiencing. After the Second Wave, men thought their superiority would be proven when more women tried the trades and professions and came a cropper. The truth is that women outperform men everywhere except physically. Women have more than 50% of seats in both medical and law schools. This percentage would be even higher except admissions boards are handicapping to let more men in. Women get into college more and graduate at higher numbers once we’re there. All of this within systems we didn’t even create and that were created if men, by men and for men.
PPS – Let us know how things turn out with this Jayne because you could potentially have a serious problem here. You never want to get mentioned in someone else’s divorce case. This doesn’t happen the way it used to, but it could still be possible. And keep a close eye on your “friend”, because from what you’ve told me she would absolutely throw you under the bus to save herself, or her alimony or to get back together with this husband once she’s done getting laid. Be very careful Jayne. Be polite and nice on the surface. Deny all accusations of adultery as vociferously as is politic and watch very, very carefully. Take care of yourself. Try and defend your job. And yes, I know this woman is your immediate supervisor and you can’t alienate her and you can’t. Think of yourself as in survival mode in a viper pit and that might see you through. First thing is to see if you and she can throw off the accusations of adultery and lesbianism first. And did nobody see you during these weekends you were supposedly out camping? Even your internet usage would prove differently. Not that I think any of these people have the money to take things that far but still. Hopefully this will end as a tempest in a teapot. But even in that you could very well be the collateral damage. Think carefully about any lies you are forced to tell too.
And OMG fuck this woman for being so dumb. This whole thing has set off every alarm bell for me. Be careful Jayne.
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Seen that, been there…. Yes, it means that you also have to be careful with women who have husbands, male friends or even sons. They are ready to through you under the bus for their relationship with a man. (Husband, friend or son) So be careful, as not all women are into “women solidarity first”. I call those women “patriarchal woman”. And yes, some of them can be quite dangerous. There is only solidarity and friendship, if they can profit from it. Just be careful, if you don’t want to be disappointed again and again.
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I don’t necessarily fault women for putting their male first, but I about do not want to be dragged into their bullshit.
She is extremely male identified, which is how I refer to the “patriarchal women” that you spoke about.
Recently, I had several males give me shit in a short span of time, including one xy who called the business while he was masturbating, an xy who called me a Lesbian for refusing his advances, and a large, smelly, slow witted XY who was married, yet, was actively looking for another dick hole. And that’s just a few of fucking many.
She made a comment about how she enjoys male attention, and I actively avoid it, yet it seems like she should be getting all of the attention, and she doesn’t understand why they bother me, lol.
She can’t understand that she is in exactly the place where males put us and want us to stay, while I refuse to be in that place, so males are endlessly trying to put me back in it. That when I say NO, and I do say NO, that they are determined to intimidate, shame or otherwise shove me back into the male dictated place for all of us, as an object, as a fuckhole, as a whore. When I refuse to giggle, smile, or laugh, I am being disobedient, and males must correct me.
It’s not about me. These males are not interested in me, not even a little bit. Males want to test how obedient we are to their demands, and when we show ourselves as not pandering to their male dictates, they will harass, threaten, intimidate, bully to remind us of the position that they have created and demand that we stay in.
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You are 100% right of course. Still. I also lost so many women friends, because I just didn’t agree with their “male BS” and also didn’t want to get involved with their “male BS”. So besides of all the terrible XY-idiots there were also women who thought me weird and called me manhater or worse.
I was more disappointed by women than by men, because I never expected anything good or even helpful from men. But I did from women. At least fairness. As they 100% side with men, they are also not good for your wellbeing. So? I also don’t expect too much from women anymore. I find all the love I need in nature and with animals. And yes, I only can accept intelligent radical feminists as friends. The other women don’t interest me anymore, as they are just as boring, attention seeking and energy sucking as men.
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I agree with you, about the disappointment with women in comparison to males. When this comes up, it’s sometimes falsely framed as misogyny, but I don’t think so.
It’s part of why I hate discussing abortion with anyone, female or male. I have yet to see a woman who wants daughters, and who would abort a male fetus because she doesn’t want to be saddled with a son, be supported, even by the most feminist claiming women. I mean, they are “supportive” of abortion on demand for any reason, unless a woman refuses to create a male, and then abortion becomes a group decision because OH EM GEE, ONLY A MONSTER WOULD ABORT A PRECIOUS PRINCE.
I just saw a conversation amongst feminists yesterday online about how marriage is pretty good, lots of people want to be married, and some dumb assholes THINK THAT MARRIAGE IS HETERONORMATIVE, HAVE YOU EVER HEARD SUCH A CRAZY IDEA!!!!! How any woman, much less a radical feminist, could claim that marriage is great and not heteronormative AT ALL, is beyond me.
Women do disappoint me. But I am not capable of giving up on them.
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Oh Jayne! Please be very careful with this “pick-me, pick-me” woman. I know you already are. These sleazy, pick-mes are the worst. And, as Jonquil warned, that XY could come after you physically.. please stay safe!
I somehow feel that she might be feeling flattered by the, ahem, “attention” her ex is giving her now – given that she yearns for “that” kind of attention (pathetic!) – and might probably indirectly encourage him to keep visiting. Some kind of validation or something. (May be she really isn’t _that_ bad, but it is a small possibility). I don’t have any good ideas on the top of my head right now, but somehow it needs to be made clear that you have nothing to do with her apart from being her reportee and her friend. And this needs to be done as indirectly/subtly as possible – basically, the XY should be made to reach that conclusion on his own, without us overtly saying anything.. Please stay safe dear!! Lock your doors everytime you are at home, and check if anyone suspicious is following you… God protect you & bless you & keep you safe.
PS: I’m very glad you are discovering all your talents. We knew exactly that you had a treasure trove of talents in you that you weren’t aware of! I’m not good at sizing people, but in your case, I could very easily & confidently tell with certainty 🙂
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Hey, Fire, I think that you are correct that she likes the validation and attention. I don’t know that she is indirectly encouraging him, but I do know that she is not DETERRING him, when there’s no reason for her to interact with him, they don’t share children or anything that makes it impossible to cut off communication.
I did gently explain to her this past week that I would appreciate it if she would cease using me as an alibi, she immediately became apologetic and promised not to do it, anymore, and she didn’t even ask me why. Which makes me think that she understands that she has dragged me into a bunch of horrid bullshit.
I am always happy to see you, and I hope that you are doing well, my dear sister.🥰
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Pheewwwwww, so relieved that she understood & agreed not to drag you into this! Good.. But still, I’m slightly concerned about the wrong notions that the stupid XY already got on you. I hope she can manage to convince him that you were actually on a group trip on those weekends, or better, that you had invited her to Church or a Prayer Meeting, where no one can be lesbian-ing. Or may be to a beauty parlor or someplace where “ugly”(?) lebisans don’t go to. Or may be to hospital or pet-clinic to help you out (or you were accompanying her to help her out) or something..
Thank you for asking, dear sis – I’m fine by God’s Grace 🙂
Wishing you all the very best!
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