No longer saying sorry. I am not sorry.

I was just with my closest (irl) friend, she was on a break at her job, we had eaten lunch together, and we were sitting on the front porch when a female coworker of hers sat down to join us.

My friend was telling me about some local XY had just been arrested here, in my county, for raping a girl under 11 years old. He would make this little girl watch porn and then re-enact the porn with him.

I don’t know if this is a real story, I don’t know if she had the facts straight and I am certainly not going to Google it because I don’t need to read details of yet another adult XY raping yet another little girl.

It’s not unbelievable, is it.

It’s certainly not uncommon.

She went on to say that the news coverage made a big deal about the little girl being younger than 11 years old, and she claimed that there are some places in the states wherein 11 years old is the age of consent.

Again, I don’t know, and I really don’t want to know.

But also again, this would not be surprising, would it.

We were having a conversation about age of consent laws, about how so many of our foremothers had bargained away so many rights, and had allowed males to retain domination of our existence in some ways, in order to protect little girls, and now, males are chipping away at age of consent, too.

I mentioned that the very fact that age of consent laws were needed in order to stop the mass xy raping of little girls is a sad commentary on the male existence that no one ever thinks about or mentions. And how we were counting on the rapists to enforce laws controlling their rapist brothers, we all know that women do not mass rape little boys, women do not create religions in order to force little boys into marriage with adult women, the class of women does not sexually terrorize children.

Then my friend’s coworker chimed in with this…

BUT LITTLE BOYS GET RAPED, TOO!!!

Male identified woman, caping for the boys because WhatAboutTheBoys.

My obviously irritated response was “of course not, of course, we can’t forget about the boys, we certainly can’t talk about girls unless we mention boys, too”.

And she came back with “well, priests in the catholic church molested hundreds of boys”, to which I replied, “yep, and everyone is so upset about the boys, no one called the boys liars, no one is lobbying to lower the age of consent so priests can legally fuck boys. Males are rapists, sometimes they rape boys, but girls are statistically much more frequently raped by males, but please do go on about how we can’t forget about the fucking boys.”

Unsurprisingly, she showed some irritation, she begrudgingly said “sorry, but I care about all of the children, not just the girls”, as she was walking back inside to escape my repugnant misandry.

And I hear this ALL OF THE FUCKING TIME and I am so fucking sick of it.

Why is it that when girls are mentioned, and the discussion taking place is about how girls are targeted by sexual terrorist XYs, there’s always ALWAYS someone to remind us that BOYS, TOO!!!

Here’s the truth, I don’t fucking care about boys. There are enough people who center boys, who cater to boys, who worry about boys, who cry endless tears for fucking boys, who worry about the hurt feelings of boys, who worry about the exclusion of boys, while a sizeable number of those boys are terrorizing the little girls around them, many times, their own sisters.

The other side of that truth is the insidious lie that is created by dick panderers of both sexes, that because I say that I don’t care about boys, that this is somehow being interpreted as me wanting to harm boys in some unspecified, yet very sinister way.

Like most women, I have never hurt a child. I have absolutely no desire to do anything untoward or damaging to any child, anywhere. Not caring is not the verbal equivalent of MURDER THEM ALL.

When we went back into the building, I had the overwhelming urge to apologize to my friend’s coworker, but you know what? I am done apologizing for centering women and girls.

My concern, my focus, my energy goes to women and girls. The boys will end up just fine. All of the fucking world will see to that.

Just like always.

Jayne ❤️