About Male Avoidance. Also, Mothers of Sons.

Something happened to me the other day that I wanted to share. I want to know if any of you have had a similar experience and what your thoughts are.

I have made no secret that I am against birthing children. I have written about it extensively and won’t bore everyone with listing the multitude reasoning of why I believe it again. But there is one specific reason that I will mention here since it is pertinent to this discussion. And that is why are any of us having male children? Are we short on male violence? Does patriarchy need more oppressors? The world needs more males?

I am not very accurate when guessing the age of kids, since I have never spent that much time around them. I have exactly zero maternal instinct and you all will know all about the hell I catch for that failure of womaning. Anyway, I am just over 5 feet. I was walking into a convenient store when this male toddler approaches me, his mother close behind. I am guessing he might have been 3 or 4? He came up to right around my waist, but he couldn’t talk like an adult. He was very babyish.

This tiny ass male walks right up to me, puts his hands up above his head, and literally slaps his hands onto my breasts. And he immediately squeezes. And tries to leave them there. I froze for a second.

Out of instinct, I slapped his hands away and said NO really loud. And I am not sorry. I would never abuse a child, ever. I didn’t hurt him, but I hurt his feelz, and so he immediately began the lip quiver, as if he was going to cry. All of this happened in 2 or 3 seconds.

So his mother, who is right behind him, says his name, and says “you can’t go around hugging just everyone”. Just as she got to the end of that sentence was when I slapped his hands off of me. I looked at her like she was nuts, and I said “are you teaching him that grabbing women by their breasts is a hug?????” She didn’t answer me. She was highly offended that I didn’t coo at her special snowflake, if the look on her face was any indication. She looked like she wanted to say something, she was obviously at least irritated, if not outright mad, so I waited a second or 2. When she didn’t respond, I walked away.

I do not like males. I am allowed to not like males. ALL of them. Including the children, who are usually really fucking horrible. If you want to see radical feminist women fall seamlessly into spouting MRA talking points, find the ones that have male children. I have seen some discussions online about women only spaces and if male children should be allowed in them. Males show entitlement to women as early as 2 or 3 years old, and the UK just had a case of 2 six year old boys repeatedly raping a 6 year old female classmate. Teachers knew and did nothing but blame the girl, and it went on for a long time because the little girl did not possess the language necessary to explain what was being inflicted onto her, even though her parents knew that something was wrong, they just didn’t know what it was.

And it is happening more and more. Or is it that boys have always assaulted girls this way? And the girls are ignored? Or told that “boys will be boys”?

Taken from r/Legaladvice: parent posts about 7 year old daughter getting sexually assaulted by a boy in school from GenderCritical

****I googled to find the case of the 6 year old male rapists in the UK. This is the page Google gave me……….

https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&ei=fAbbW-bJLMq0zwKJvbWgDw&ins=false&q=6+year+old+boys+rape+school+uk&oq=6+year+old+boys+rape+school+uk&gs_l=mobile-gws-wiz-hp.3…2380.15319..15656…1.0..0.1114.8497.0j9j16j3j6-1j1……0….1…….5..0j46j35i39j0i67j0i131j46i131j46i67j0i22i30.BoMCTqKLzSU

I have no fucking words. Jesus.****

I remember being 6 or 7 years old and swimming at a local pool. A few of the boys were continuously trying to untie the girls’ bathing suits at the top to expose our chests. I went to my mother, and her response was to laugh, say “boys will be boys”, and “when boys are mean to you or annoy you, it means they like you. Ignore them and they will stop.”

I learned a couple of things that day. The first is that boys are entitled to do what they want to girls and no one will stop them.

The second is that if a boy is hurting you, HE LIKES YOU.

And if a boy is “bothering” you, IGNORE HIM and he will stop. Smile and be kind. Eventually, he might stop. I mean, I don’t know why he would. When he can “like” you however he wants to.

We are given a million insidious little coded femininity dictates from birth. Be quiet, be kind, don’t take up space, don’t run, don’t get your dress dirty, play with this doll, you don’t really want to play with that chemistry set! You might get dirty! When he pulls your hair, it’s because he likes you, don’t embarrass him by making a fuss.

This is how male society normalizes male abuse. We socialize girls to take shit from boys. And we socialize boys that they are welcome to do whatever they choose to girls with absolutely no consequence.

And a frightening amount of boys choose to treat girls as objects on which they can show aggression just because they can. And these boys are choosing sexual violence earlier and earlier.

So, no. I support women that want to have kids, even males. But I don’t want to be around them. And they do not belong in woman only spaces. Mothers of sons lose their shit when women say that. And then they will say that women that don’t want to be around their sons are resentful that they gave birth to sons. I am not resentful, but I don’t agree with giving males life, especially at a great cost to ourselves and when the majority of males are straight up horrible.

And mothers of sons will say that they are raising their sons to be feminist! The most feminist males in the history of the ever! And I wonder why they think that they, as 1 person, will have more influence over their son then the whole of patriarchal society. Especially when they, as one person, are asking males to not oppress women while all of society encourages them to do the opposite. Also, do they think that really smart, radical feminist women have never had sons before them? That they are somehow smarter than women that had sons before them?

If sons had any respect for their mothers, it would seem that they would internalize that a female person made the decision to share their body for 9 months, give birth to them, and spend years of their life taking care of them, providing for them, and raising them. But somehow, males always see the labor of their mother as an entitlement, and decide that women have a natural place as slaves to males, and they continue the cycle of oppression. Males learn that a mother’s love is dictated to be unconditional,* which males interpret to mean that they can treat a woman however they choose because women are going to love them no matter what. And they project this on to every woman everywhere, and it starts with their mother.

So I can’t understand why women would choose to give life to a male. But I will support whatever reproductive choices that women make. And I will not judge them or be shitty about it.

Until their precious little prince grabs my breasts. Then, I am going to be shitty. Unless she immediately corrects him.

Don’t teach your male children that it’s cute or funny to grab my breasts. Society will teach them that they own us. So how about you do women a favor and teach him to keep his hands to himself? And that he doesn’t have the right to touch women just because he wants to?

I am pretty sure I know how he will choose. But it would be nice if you tried.

Jayne

*I think that teaching women that it is our job to love unconditionally is straight up bullshit. There are people that do not deserve our love. Males should not be entitled to anything from us. End of.

BONUS:

There was a fascinating discussion about breastfeeding in the comments on a recent thread. And then I saw this….

TiMs takes hormones to nurse wife’s baby… from GenderCritical

I can’t even. His mother gave him life. And look at what he is fucking doing. He is disgusting.

BONUS 2:

Enjoy this dog. Who is eating tacos. While wearing a onesie.